Dictionary.com defines the word lure as anything that attracts, entices or allures. This is the method of choice for moving our FASD child in a new direction. To be successful the lure must be eye catching, desirable, worthwhile, and for our purpose immediate. This is a hit or miss proposition with our child. Sometimes it works and other times you can forget it. Occasionally, when you change the lure you will achieve the desired effect. The tricky thing is that just because a particular lure worked one time it may not work the next time! We often engage in it instinctively.
We went to a restaurant the other day. Sensing a potential problem, while being seated, my wife began to immediately suggest the most special seat in the house (“eye catching”), between Mom and Dad (“desirable”) while pointing out the other children must sit on the other side of the table (“now worthwhile!”). That seemed to work but a second potential problem also existed (yes a double lure situation! You might say we were suffering double jeopardy!).
As we were being seated pictures and crayons were being dispersed. Now Dad initiated the second lure. Nokomis, can you color (“immediate”) this picture (“eye catching”) for me (“desirable?”) to bring to work (“worthwhile”)? Success! Both lures worked and the meal turned out fine.
The necessity for lures is constant. The unfortunate thing is that because they must be attractively dangled in front of our oldest daughter, the others become flustered and feel like they are missing out. Our youngest child has the most trouble with this while the other 2 now understand what is happening.
We went to a restaurant the other day. Sensing a potential problem, while being seated, my wife began to immediately suggest the most special seat in the house (“eye catching”), between Mom and Dad (“desirable”) while pointing out the other children must sit on the other side of the table (“now worthwhile!”). That seemed to work but a second potential problem also existed (yes a double lure situation! You might say we were suffering double jeopardy!).
As we were being seated pictures and crayons were being dispersed. Now Dad initiated the second lure. Nokomis, can you color (“immediate”) this picture (“eye catching”) for me (“desirable?”) to bring to work (“worthwhile”)? Success! Both lures worked and the meal turned out fine.
The necessity for lures is constant. The unfortunate thing is that because they must be attractively dangled in front of our oldest daughter, the others become flustered and feel like they are missing out. Our youngest child has the most trouble with this while the other 2 now understand what is happening.